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    Motivating Children to be Winners in Life

    November 28th, 2016

    Create the Mood for Motivation

    Last week I shared our school’s technique for motivating
    students to try harder, which we call “Praise, Correct, Praise
    and Challenge.” In this newsletter I want to offer some insight
    into the importance of setting the atmosphere.

    Grand Master Darren Norris, Owner of Five Rings Self Defense in Etowah, NC

    But first, let me ask you a question: When you were a kid, when
    did you ask your parents for money? When they were in a good
    mood, of course! You knew they’d be more receptive and generous
    if they were feeling happy.

    We do the same thing with students, setting a positive
    atmosphere and reaping positive results.

    To do this, we make sure our school is an upbeat place to be.
    I tell my instructors that as leaders in my school, we are in
    the business of creating a mood for learning and being the best.

    Stated very simply, we want to project a positive spirit and set
    the stage to make sure students are inspired to learn.

    As parents, you know that being positive around your children
    will always make them strive to be the best. As we mentioned
    in previous newsletters, students are motivated by praise and
    encouragement.

    When students and families walk in the door, we greet one
    another with a bow and a smile. From the moment they step foot
    into the school, they know they will be treated with positive
    encouragement.

    Therefore, they do not fear being ridiculed for trying. They do
    not fear failure because they know they will be encouraged to
    keep going even when the going is tough.

    By creating a positive, upbeat mood, we have found that students
    don’t fear trying new things, even if they are difficult. They
    know they are in a positive place.

    Thank you for visiting our page.

    Sincerely,
    Darren Norris

    P.S. The very best way to see our LIFE LESSON strategies in action
    is for your child or family to experience them directly via our
    TRY US OUT program.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense
    125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729
    Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!
    of Etowah North Carolina Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993


    Positive Praise First

    September 28th, 2016

    Positive Praise First

    Over the course of these past four posts I’ve shared our school’s strategies for positively motivating children to do their best.

    Grand Master Darren Norris, Owner of Five Rings Self Defense in Etowah, NC

    In this newsletter, I want to discuss a common mistake that I’ve seen other teachers and parents sometimes make along the way. In their desire to help children do their very best, they offer “constructive criticism” right from the very beginning.

    However, if children hear praise first, they are much more willing to keep improving. We train our instructors to seek the positives first, to be “good finders.” Once they praise our students for their efforts, they share ways to improve upon their technique.

    So it sounds like this: “I like the way you kicked. Now if you turn your foot this would be better. Great! Now do it 10 more times just like that!”

    Instead of being guarded and defensive, the child is motivated by the praise to try again.

    I also see this with parents. They love their child and want them to do so well that they first correct their child instead of first praising them for their efforts. This minor tweak will really boost your child’s desire to be the best.

    Our instructors call this, “Praise, Correct, Praise and Challenge.”

    I hope this helps. To see my instructors in action, stop by our school and watch how well students respond to our successful style of teaching.

    Thank you for visiting our page.

    Sincerely,
    Darren Norris

    P.S. The very best way to see our LIFE LESSON strategies in action is for your child or family to experience them directly via our TRY US OUT program.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense
    125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729
    Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!
    of Etowah North Carolina Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993


    Making Positive Choices

    August 30th, 2016

    In the last three newsletters, I’ve share three strategies we use to get the most out of the children in our martial arts classes.

    In this newsletter, I want to discuss a concern we frequently hear from parents about making the right choice. They ask:

    “If someone asks my child to do drugs (or some other harmful activity), will he or she make the right choice?

    Grand Master Darren Norris, Owner of Five Rings Self Defense in Etowah, NC

    Well, in my years of experience in working with children of all ages, I’ve found there are two key determinants to children
    making the right choice.

    1. Level of Self Confidence and Self Esteem

    Children with the highest level of self confidence and self esteem will always make the right choices because they will
    not wilt under peer pressure. That’s why martial arts classes at our school in Etowah places so much emphasis on developing children in this area.

    2. The Personal Standards Others Have For Them

    We’ve learned that children generally live up to whatever standard we expect of them. Within martial arts we use the level of “black belt” as a way to communicate the standards we expect. For example, we label our black belt achievers as the children who never give up, do their best, are always honest and are the most respectful.

    We encourage our parents to work as hard as we do in building their child’s self-esteem and setting high standards.

    For example, related to education, we have some parents who expect a masters degree from all of their children and, to know one’s surprise, that’s what ends up happening.

    Kids will live up to the image they have of themselves and the adults in their life have of them — and, if that image is a positive one, they will always make the right choices in life.

    Thank you for visiting our page.

    Sincerely,
    Darren Norris

    P.S. The very best way to see our LIFE LESSON strategies in action is for your child or family to experience them directly via our TRY US OUT program.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense
    125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729
    Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!

    Etowah North Carolina Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993


    Positive Labeling with Martial Arts in Etowah

    June 26th, 2016

    Last time I told you how we use POSITIVE SELF LABELING to

    get the most out of the children in our classes.

    In this newsletter, I want to describe:

    Grand Master Darren Norris, Owner of Five Rings Self Defense in Etowah, NC

    Strategy #3 — WHAT’S IN IT FOR ME

    For example, our instructors might say,

    “Who wants to get to the next level in martial arts?” (kids all raise their hand)

    “Well, if you do, you are going to have to learn this new martial arts move and I will give you a sticker when you do.”

    In other words, we let our children set a goal for themselves and then we tell them how and offer an award if they accomplish the goal set.

    How can you apply this strategy? You might say to your child:

    “Do you want good grades” (yep, your child says)

    “Well, if you do, you should ask for extra credit at school. That will give you a better shot at good grades and you can get extra play time (or some other family incentive).

    Just make sure your child knows WHAT’S IN IT FOR THEM.

    In this and the last two newsletters I’ve shared three strategies we use to get the most out of our children. I hope you have found this information valuable.

    In the next newsletter I’m going to discuss how to help your child make the right choices in life.

    Thank you for visiting our page.

    Sincerely,
    Darren Norris

    P.S. The very best way to see our LIFE LESSON strategies in action is for your child or family to experience them directly via our
    TRY US OUT program.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense
    125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729
    Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!
    of Etowah North Carolina Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993


    Positive Self Labeling in Martial Arts Class

    June 1st, 2016

    Last time I told you how we use POSITIVE LABELING as one our
    strategies to get the most out of children in our classes.

    Grand Master Darren Norris, Owner of Five Rings Self Defense in Etowah, NC

    Our parents use this strategy also with great results.

    Are you continuously looking for opportunities to POSITIVELY
    LABEL your child?

    In this newsletter I want to tell you about the second of the
    three strategies we frequently use.

    Strategy #2 is POSITIVE SELF LABELING

    For example, we might ask the entire class:

    ”Who wants to be strong?” (kids all raise their hand)

    “Who wants big muscles?” (kids all raise their hands).

    “Who wants a super strong hand technique?” (kids raise their
    hands)

    “Well if you want these things than you are going to have to
    do push ups. Show me your ten best push ups.”

    In other words, we let our children label themselves with a
    goal and then we show them out to accomplish it.

    How can you apply this strategy? You might say to your child:

    “You want to be smart?” (yep, your child says) “You want good
    grades?” (yep, your child says). “Then, getting all your homework
    done is going to be very important.”

    POSITIVE SELF LABELING — it works for us and it will work for
    you.

    Thank you for visiting our page.

    Sincerely,
    Darren Norris

    P.S. The very best way to see our LIFE LESSON strategies in action
    is for your child or family to experience them directly via our
    TRY US OUT program.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense
    125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729
    Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!
    of Etowah North Carolina Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993


    The Truth About Martial Arts Schools

    April 24th, 2016

    The Truth About Martial Arts Schools

    Grand Master Darren Norris, Owner of Five Rings Self Defense in Etowah, NC

    Do Government Agencies Protect You and Your Family From Unqualified Martial Arts Schools and Unlicensed Instructors? The Answer May Surprise You!

    The Truth About Martial Arts Instructors Is A revealing report by Grand Master Darren Norris of Etowah, North Carolina.

    As with school teachers, doctors, pilots, and any other profession, all Martial Arts Schools or Instructors are not created equal.

    First of all, you have to remember that in the USA, Martial Arts are just that – AN ART FORM. Martial arts schools in the USA are not federally or state controlled as they are in Korea and Japan. North Carolina isn’t the only place that you will find unqualified instructors running schools. It is a national epidemic.

    In Japan and Korea you can actually earn a college degree at a Martial Arts School. In the USA, there is no consumer watchdog agency to ensure the quality or legitimacy of Martial Arts instruction. There are no national standards, criteria or requirements for Martial Arts. Many people have abused this system and it is up to you, as a consumer, to try to find a good instructor.

    So does that mean that if my Instructor is Korean or Japanese that he is qualified? NO, unfortunately the majority of those Korean and Japanese instructors in the USA came here as low ranking black belts to open a school because there were not licensed to do that in their country. You won’t have that problem if you attend our Aikido and Hapkido school in Etowah, North Carolina. All of our instructors are internationally certified.

    Essentially anyone can open a Martial Arts school after obtaining a business license. I have seen schools run by 15 and 16 year old children. In Korea you must be at least 24 years old to test for an instructor’s license. In the USA people can order an impressive looking certificate from some mail order organization in any Martial Arts magazine.

    Decent schools have instructors with a reasonable idea about what they are doing with their art and their teaching ability and at the same time also understand how to run the school as a business so they can pay the rent and keep the lights on.

    That being said, what does that tell you about their martial art, their ability to teach what you are looking for and the actual benefits that you will receive from studying with them? Nothing much.

    In other words, a “Reasonable Idea” about their ability to teach Martial Arts and the ability to keep the lights on: Is this the Criteria upon which to base your choice of Martial Arts School?

    The best Martial Arts instructors are “Self-Regulated”. They seek out the proper training and certifications from the organizations for their Martial Art in the homeland country. For Korean Martial Arts schools that would mean belonging to the Korean Martial Arts Instructors Association or one of the branch member organizations.

    First a few rules of thumb to consider:

    You will encounter many “Masters and Grandmasters”. Their schools’ advertisements will tout their owners’ amazing achievements in Martial Arts competition or in rank achievement.

    Many school owners will claim to be high-ranking black belts such as 6th degree black belt up through 10th degree black belt. Every Martial Arts style has a slightly different scale of belts or sashes and ranks. Don’t let this confuse, impress or intimidate you. Think of it as nothing more than someone who has gone through elementary school, then on to middle school, high school, college and possibly graduate school. However, in the USA nearly 99% of these ranks are self-appointed, NOT from the world headquarters in Korea.

    Rank means nothing if the knowledge of the “Masters” cannot help you achieve your goals. All schools will claim to teach the standard fare: discipline, self-confidence, respect, etc. All schools will try to impress you with the qualifications and accomplishments of the owner or master. However, you will almost never be taught by that person, but by his or her junior instructors – often times you may be taught by an 18 year old who is a 1st degree black belt or sometimes even a brown belt. There is nothing inherently wrong with this as long as you do receive some instruction from higher ranking black belts that are certified instructors as you increase in rank over time.

    Some schools will tout the fact that they belong to some national or international association or federation related to their Martial Arts style. This is not a bad thing, but it is not a guarantee that you will receive quality instruction or that there will be good focus on self-defense. Many of these organizations are mere sports organizations that do not teach a realistic self-defense system.

    Most schools will try to fit you into what programs they have to offer. You want to try to pry more info out of them on how they will fit your needs and specifically how they will meet the claims that they make.

    Finally, keep in mind that Martial Arts schools are not miracle factories. You will have to work hard and put a lot into it in order to get a lot out of it.

    For the best Martial Arts training in Etowah, North Carolina visit 5 Rings Self-Defense. I personally invite you to visit our location for a free trial lesson.

    Sincerely,

    Darren Norris

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense 125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729 of Etowah North Carolina Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993 Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!


    Taking Martial Arts Classes in Etowah North Carolina

    April 23rd, 2016

    TAKING MARTIAL ARTS CLASSES

     What you think you are paying for:

    • Being taught to kick and punch

    What you are actually getting for your money:

    • A Life Coach
    • A Psychologist
    • A Mentor
    • An Inspirer
    • A Supporter
    • A Friendly Listener
    • A Problem Solver
    • A Stress Reliever
    • Being encouraged to believe in yourself
    • A Personal Trainer & Dietician
    • Strength, Flexibility and Weight Loss Coach
    • Being Taught a Positive Attitude
    • Someone on call for you 24/7
    • Someone who encourages you and your children to have Respect, Patience, Humility, Discipline, Perseverance, Empathy, Courtesy, Listening Skills, Loyalty, and Self-Control just to name a few.
    • Being taught to have a strong work ethic and enjoy life
    • Being held accountable for your actions
    • Being encouraged to set goals and to reach your goals
    • Someone who helps you build emotional strength and mental stability
    • Someone who will hug you when you are down, pick you up when you have fallen, remind you of your worth, and stand by your loyalty when you feel like no one else will
    • Someone who teaches you to stand up to bullies
    • Knowledge, Wisdom, Martial Arts Training, Opportunity, Training Equipment, and a safe place to train in and someone who puts their heart and soul into you
    • Someone who has spent their entire life in training to assist you

    Still think you are paying too much for your “Kicking & Punching” Class?

    Would a doctor, lawyer, plumber, carpenter, dentist, chef, mechanic, shop owner or psychologist offer all of the above for free in addition to their regular services that they charge for? I haven’t found one yet that does.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense
    125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729
    Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!
    Etowah North Carolina’s Most Popular Training Center

    Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993


    Positive Results from Martial Arts Training

    March 30th, 2016

    Ever wish that your child would make the choice to do something

    Grand Master Darren Norris, Owner of Five Rings Self Defense in Etowah, NC

    harder than take the easy way out?

    I repeatedly hear this concern from parents.

    Well, after years of working with kids, we have developed some very successful strategies to get the very best out of children.

    In this and the next two newsletters, I’ll describe three of these strategies.

    The underlying goal with all of our LIFE LESSONS is to get children to develop the motivation from within to want to do the right thing.

    Strategy #1 is POSITIVE LABELING

    For example, if we want our children to do good push ups our instructors might say:

    “I know you are real strong! Can you show me 10 good push ups.”

    In other words, we label the child the way we want them to perform.

    How can you apply this strategy? You might say to your child:

    “I know you like a real challenge and are smart, why don’t you ask for that extra credit work in school.”

    POSITIVE LABELING — it helps us get the most out of our children and, if you aren’t already using this strategy, I’m sure it will help you.

    Thank you for visiting our page.

    Sincerely,
    Darren Norris

    P.S. The very best way to see our LIFE LESSON strategies in action is for your child or family to experience them directly via our TRY US OUT program.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense
    125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729
    Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!
    Etowah North Carolina’s Most Popular Training Center

    Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993


    World Martial Arts TV introduces Grand Master Darren Norris

    February 16th, 2016

    Meet Grand Master Darren Norris

     

    http://www.masterdarrennorris.com Hello, this is Alex “The Maverick” Collazo from the World Martial Arts TV Show.
    I’m here today with a special report about the award winning martial arts self-defense school for Adults, Children and Families in Etowah, North Carolina, Aikido and Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense!

    Grand Master Darren Norris is a professional martial arts instructor & part time writer for World Martial Arts Magazine in Etowah, North Carolina. He is a regular co-host of the World Martial Arts TV & Radio Shows.

    His school has been offering Martial Arts Programs for Adults Children & Families since 1993.

    Our award winning adult program is held Monday through Thursday nights from 6:00 until 7:30. Students are encouraged to attend as many nights as possible.

    Our focus is developing a strong mind, body and spirit through physical training in the traditional martial arts of Aikido and Hapkido. This training teaches not only two of the most highly regarded self-defense arts in the world, but also self-discipline, self-control, self-respect and self-confidence.

    Our Hapkido program is personally taught by Master Darren Norris, the East Coast representative for the Korean Martial Arts Instructors Association and Hall of Fame Award Winner. The Hapkido program that we teach is approved by the Korean Hapkido Federation world headquarters in KwangJu, South Korea.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense has students from the entire Etowah, Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville and Horse Shoe North Carolina Community.

    At this school you can Learn the same self-defense techniques taught to the US Secret Service, Law Enforcement and Elite Military Units around the world in their exciting programs. All courses are taught in a Police Academy style format for the best possible learning environment. The North Carolina Director of Training is Darren Norris.

    Grand Master Darren Norris’s extensive martial arts training as well as his time training Police personnel who have experience dealing with real criminals have given him highly unique insights into the reality of self-defense and street effective real world Defensive Tactics.

    Darren Norris trained in numerous Asian Martial Art systems earning multiple black belt ranks. After many years in the Asian arts Darren Norris earned Master and Grand Master level rankings in five martial arts systems.

    He is a highly sought after instructor and has earned numerous awards and is a member of the Martial Arts Hall of Fame.

    Visitors are always welcome at Aikido and Hapkido of Hendersonville 5 Rings Self Defense 125 Etowah Center Drive Etowah, North Carolina

    Give them a call at phone number (828) 388-0635 to schedule your trial lesson.

    Visit their website at www.MasterDarrenNorris.com or Like them at http://www.facebook.com/masterdarrennorris

    This has been a special report by the World Martial Arts TV Show, I’m Alex “The Maverick” Collazo, Thank you for watching!


    Life Lessons from Martial Arts

    January 4th, 2016

    Thanks for visiting our page here at the Five Rings Self-Defense in Etowah, North Carolina

    Here our mission is to teach children and families LIFE LESSONS by providing them with positive learning experiences.

    The experiences we provide are designed to help children and adults learn the value of:

    * focus and discipline

    * hard work and commitment towards a goal

    * positive interactions with peers

    All from our self-defense martial arts lessons. It won’t matter which of our programs you choose from whether it’s Aikido, Hapkido, TangSooDo or YuSool Korean Jujitsu, you will learn from it.

    In teaching these LIFE LESSONS over the years, we’ve learned a lot about what motivates kids and entire families to excel, and what undermines their motivation.

    And, we have found that sharing our knowledge with parents offers some unique insight they often can’t get from another source. It was that discovery which compelled us to develop start writing these articles.

    I sincerely hope you gain value from visiting our website.

    In the next article, which will arrive in a few weeks, I’ll
    share my new LIFE LESSON.
    To your health, wealth, and success,

    Grand Master Darren Norris

    P.S. The very best way to see our LIFE LESSON strategies in action
    is for your child or family to experience them directly via our
    TRY US OUT program.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense 125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729 of Etowah North Carolina Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993 Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!