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    Martial Arts Teaches Confidence in Etowah North Carolina

    August 30th, 2017

    Start Small, Aim High

    Grand Master Darren Norris, Owner of Five Rings Self Defense in Etowah, NC

    Lately I’ve devoted these Life Lessons newsletters to the
    importance of sounding and acting confident. I hope the tips
    are giving you a strategy for helping your child project
    good confidence.

    It is our experience in our martial arts schools that when
    we start to build a child’s confidence, that self-assuredness
    builds and gains momentum.

    The best way to start your child on this path upward is to
    start by giving him or her small, relatively attainable goals.

    For example, in the beginning, we teach children very easy
    kicking techniques to master. The first few belts in our school
    are relatively easy to attain.

    We do not make the bar high in the beginning because we want
    the children to build positive momentum, to give them
    confidence in their ability to learn martial arts.

    As they are learning techniques, they earn stripes and rewards
    for accomplishing their goals. As they progress, they are
    invited to test for their next color belt.

    Parents can incorporate this principle at home by not
    demanding much in the beginnning. Build up to it and the
    children will naturally be confident to take on harder
    challenges.

    Try this: Have your child do the easiest homework assignments
    first. Celebrate this accomplishment. Then move on to the more
    difficult tasks, so they can tackle the challenges with greater
    confidence.

    Good luck!

    Sincerely,

    Darren Norris

    P.S. The very best way to see our LIFE LESSON strategies in action
    is for your child or family to experience them directly via our
    TRY US OUT program.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense
    125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729
    Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!
    of Etowah North Carolina Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993


    Martial Arts Class in Etowah where Discipline is Ready

    July 28th, 2017

    Discipline is Ready

    Grand Master Darren Norris, Owner of Five Rings Self Defense in Etowah, NC

    As I mentioned in the previous report, the importance of good discipline is the topic we are now setting our focus upon.

    You now know that discipline is a principle that should guide all of us, including adults. It is not an understatement to say that good discipline empowers us to enjoy health and happiness.

    Working hard, doing our best, eating right and living well all require a healthy sense of self-discipline.

    The strategies we are discussing in these reports focus on instilling self-discipline in children, but they can easily be adapted to bringing about a healthier sense of self-discipline for adults, too.

    Two things are necessary to bring about better self-discipline and instill discipline in a child: A vision for success and enough time and patience to turn those improvements into a long-term reality.

    Having said this, it is important to make it clear that until a child has a solid sense of responsibility and discipline, it is a parent’s job to set goals and pave the pathway for their child.

    That doesn’t mean you need to be extra harsh or strict; it simply requires a goal for the future and the patient guidance to help them see it through.

    As martial artists, we set the goal of achieving a black belt for all of our students. For parents and students who make this a priority, we can make it happen.
    Sincerely,

    Darren Norris

    P.S. The very best way to see our LIFE LESSON strategies in action is for your child or family to experience them directly via our TRY US OUT program.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense
    125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729
    Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!
    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense of Etowah North Carolina Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993


    Teaching Children Discipline

    July 3rd, 2017

    Teaching Discipline

    Until now, these reports have focused on motivating children and building their confidence to help bring about success in martial arts and in life. I’ve shared my insights and explained how we motivate Aikido and Tangsoodo students and build success in our schools.

    Now, I want to shift the focus to discipline, an essential trait for parents and children alike.

    I find that parents sometimes shy away from the topic of discipline because too often, we associate discipline with the act of reprimanding a child for bad behavior. Scolding, punishing, getting angry — that’s how we tend to think of discipline.

    Unfortunately so. Because having a positive attitude toward discipline can help that child learn to internalize structure and walk the path toward an achievement-oriented life.

    So forget scolding and punishing. When you think about discipline, consider the positives:

    It takes discipline to save money for big goals, like a new bike.

    Practice makes perfect — and that takes discipline.

    New privileges come only when a child is disciplined enough to have good behavior on a long-term basis.

    Our martial arts school is well known for our emphasis on high standards and good discipline. In fact, we often call our school the “Academy of Discipline.”

    We have identified good discipline as a priority for our students and we all work hard to build discipline.

    Stay tuned for more information and techniques you can try at home to encourage good discipline with your child. In the meantime, reconsider your attitude toward discipline. It’s an important skill for life.
    Sincerely,

    Darren Norris

    P.S. The very best way to see our LIFE LESSON strategies in action
    is for your child or family to experience them directly via our
    TRY US OUT program.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense
    125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729
    Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!
    of Etowah North Carolina Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993


    Learning Relevant Martial Arts in Etowah North Carolina

    June 6th, 2017

    We Make Learning Relevant

    Grand Master Darren Norris, Owner of Five Rings Self Defense in Etowah, NC

    Over the course of the past few months, I’ve outlined my school’s methods for motivating students, and offered tips for establishing routines and structure for children. I hope you’ve tried some of these techniques at home and found them to be as successful there as we find them to be.

    Next, I’d like to share with you how we approach real-life issues and make them relevant to children. We find that it helps children appreciate how these issues might affect them someday. As martial artists, we place high expectations on our students’ behavior and expect them to know how to conduct themselves in difficult situations.

    We believe that martial arts classes give us an opportunity to discuss with children the sometimes thorny issues that touch their lives – from safety and stranger awareness to peer pressure and dealing with bullies.

    That is the first important step: To recognize the opportunity. Parents wanting to discuss these issues with their children must make opportunities to do the same.

    Next, we discuss the issue with the children and provide them with solid guidelines on how to behave in the situation.

    Finally, to drive home the point, we do role-playing exercises.

    Try discussing these issues with children – these topics are perfect for heart-to-heart discussions in the car or at the dinner table. Here are just a few discussion starters:

    • “Let’s say I’m your friend and I just found a pack of cigarettes. I want you to come smoke with me. What would you do?”
    • “I’m the class bully and I just shoved you really hard. What should you do?”
    • “I’m a stranger in a car and am asking you to help me find my puppy. What now?”

    You’ll find that making time for these topics will make for fruitful discussions.

    Sincerely,

    Darren Norris

    P.S. The very best way to see our LIFE LESSON strategies in action
    is for your child or family to experience them directly via our
    TRY US OUT program.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense
    125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729
    Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!
    of Etowah North Carolina Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993


    What do kids need?

    May 1st, 2017

    Last time, I talked about how we use routines and structure in
    our martial arts classes to help our students develop their
    ability to focus.

    That’s why martial arts in commonly recommended for children
    with A.D.D.

    I encourage you to strengthen the routines and patterns you have
    with your children.

    Having this structure helps them establish a solid footing in
    their work.

    Good teachers at school use these same techniques – they start
    the day with a consistent routine and then utilize an established
    class format throughout the day.

    Now let’s move on to the topic of repetition, another important
    keystone in learning martial arts.

    Parents certainly know how repetition appeals to children: How
    many times have you read the same bedtime story over and over? Children crave routines and patterns that help them feel secure.

    Learning and mastering patterns is essential in the martial arts. In order to progress to the next belt or rank, one must
    memorize a form (also called “Poomse, Hyung, or Kata”).

    Because these forms progress in difficulty, they help sharpen focus and build concentration. Once a student has mastered their
    form, they have a great sense of confidence and enthusiasm as their skills progress.

    The importance of learning through rhythms and patterns is very often overlooked in our modern lives. Our society sometimes
    urges us to let go of the old and constantly move onto the newest and most exciting toy, blockbuster movie or gadget.

    Help and encourage your child to understand and value the importance of repetition and structure into their lives. Let them
    hold onto old favorites, enjoy their favorite meal and yes, read that bedtime story to them one more time.

    Good Luck!

    Sincerely,

    Darren Norris

    P.S. The very best way to see our LIFE LESSON strategies in action is for your child or family to experience them directly via our
    TRY US OUT program.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense
    125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729
    Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!
    of Etowah North Carolina Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993


    Kids Need Consistency

    March 30th, 2017

    Issue # 19 Consistency is Important for Kids
    Hi,

    Over the course of the past couple of months, I’ve outlined my
    school’s methods for motivating students, and offered tips for
    establishing a positive, encouraging atmosphere for children.

    I hope you’ve tried some of these techniques at home and found
    them to be as successful there as we find them to be in our
    martial arts schools.

    Next, I’d like to share with you the proven method that we use
    to structure our lessons. We find that it helps quickly children
    settle into class and focus on the subject.

    It is very simply, the use of repetition and routine.

    When children come to martial arts class, after a long day at
    school, they know exactly what to expect: Class starts with a
    series of stretches, then moves into some drills. They know to
    expect this structure, and it helps them clear their mind and
    move into the more challenging portion of the lesson.

    By the time they are warmed up, they’re feeling confident –
    they’ve been doing what’s familiar and comfortable to them –
    and are ready to learn something new.

    The routines and structure we use in martial arts classes have
    been proven to help children focus – martial arts are commonly
    recommended for children with A.D.D. because of our solid
    structure and clearly stated expectations.

    To bring this principle into your home, why not rethink the
    routines you have with your children. Have you put into place
    structured routines for bedtime, chores and homework? These
    are perfect opportunities to bring order to your child’s day.

    Good Luck!

    Sincerely,

    Darren Norris

    P.S. The very best way to see our LIFE LESSON strategies in action
    is for your child or family to experience them directly via our
    TRY US OUT program.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense
    125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729
    Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!
    of Etowah North Carolina Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993


    The Founder of Hapkido

    February 26th, 2017

    The Founder of Hapkido by Grand Master Darren Norris

    Yong-Sool Choi is recognized as the founder of Hapkido worldwide and was given the title of Dojunim. Yong Sool Choi was born in Chung Buk province in Korea. He is one of the most influential people in the development of modern Korean martial arts as the founder of Hapkido. His parents died when he was very young, and he was taken toJapanby a Japanese candy maker when he was 8 or 9. Choi became very homesick and was abandoned by the candy maker so he had to wander the streets as a beggar which resulted in him being regularly assaulted by other children.

    A Japanese man noticed Choi’s situation so he took Choi in and eventually adopted him. Before Choi went to school to get an education, his name was changed to Tatujutu Yoshida.

    His education was unsuccessful. He did not speak enough Japanese to understand the teachers. He became disinterested and often fought with other children, so he was asked if he wanted to stay in school or learn martial arts.

    He chose martial arts, and went to a Daito-Ryu Aiki-Jutsu dojo with Sokaku Takeda (1860-1943), where he trained for nearly 30 years. He began to make plans to return home toKoreaand did so in the winter of 1945 and changed his name back to Yong-Sool Choi.

    During the trip home, Choi lost his money and the certificates which were proof of his training with Takeda Sensei. He decided to stay in Taegurather than to return to Chung-Buk. He worked as a bread salesman on the street for a year, and managed to save enough money to begin raising pigs. To feed his pigs, he would travel to the Suh Brewery Company to obtain free leftover grain chaff.

    In 1947, Bok-Sub Suh, the president of the Suh Brewery Company, witnessed Choi defend himself against several attackers, with little effort. He was very impressed so he sent someone down to bring this man to his office.

    Suh asked Choi what kind of martial arts he practiced. Choi didn’t answer, instead he just asked Suh to grab him by the lapel. When Suh grabbed the lapel, Choi easily executed an elbow lock and threw Suh to the floor. Suh grabbed Choi’s lapel again, and he was thrown to the floor a second time. After being defeated twice, Suh asked for Choi to teach him, promising him more free chaff, as well as paying him for lessons.

    Choi agreed so Suh prepared a Dojang at the brewery where Choi could teach what he had studied for so many years in Japan.

    Over the next few years, Choi began to establish himself as a highly respected martial arts instructor. He called his art Yoo Sool (Korean pronunciation of Ju-Jitsu). He taught mostly what he had learned from Takeda Sensei, slowly adding other techniques, including some kicks and weapon techniques.

    Suh suggested that the name YooSool be changed to YooKwonSool, to represent the fact that as well as joint locks and throwing techniques, they were also practicing strikes and kicks. Later the name became HapKiYuSool and then was shortened to HapKiDo which is written using the same characters that are used for Japanese Aikido.

    After the end of the Korean war, he opened his own private school in Taegu and began to teach a few other students. This was in 1953. Some of his students during this period had already founded, or had gone on to found their own styles. These include: Hwang-Kee (Tang-Soo-Do), In-Hyuk Suh (Kuk Sool Won), Dr. Joo-Bang Lee (Hwa Rang Do), and Han-Jae Ji (SongMuKwan Hapkido).

    About the author: Grand Master Darren Norris is the US Representative for the Korean Martial Arts Instructors Association, a certified master of Hapkido, YuSool and Korean Weapons and owner of Five Rings Self-Defense of Etowah, NC. He is the host of the Annual KMAIA Weapons Certification Course and can be reached at his website www.masterdarrennorris.com Be sure to Like him at www.facebook.com/masterdarrennorris


    Keeping Kids Tuned In and On Track

    January 26th, 2017

    Keeping Kids Tuned In and On Track

    Hi

    Grand Master Darren Norris, Owner of Five Rings Self Defense in Etowah, NC

    Over the course of several weeks, I’ve outlined my school’s methods for motivating students, and offered tips for establishing a positive, motivating atmosphere for children.

    I hope you’ve tried some of these techniques at home and found them to be as successful there as we find them to be.

    Next, I’d like to share with you a secret that we use to hold students’ attention. It’s almost like the old adage about catching more flies with honey than with vinegar: Ask, don’t shout.

    Everyone likes to be asked to do something, not always told to do so. I like to tell my instructors that in order to get the kids to practice on their own or to always use their best technique, they should try asking instead of commanding.

    For example, we can say, “Johnny, can you do your kicks,” or we can scream, “JOHNNY! DO YOUR KICKS!” Both get the same result, but the first one is more pleasing to deal with.

    Besides, if I constantly am shouting orders, I see that my students begin to tune me out. It is always better to get kids to comply with a question.

    That’s not to say we don’t sometimes demand action. But we do mix it up, because constantly demanding is overbearing. We want students to realize that we want them to do their best – and that sometimes, we have to ask.

    When we give them our best, they respond by giving us their
    best in return.

    Good Luck!

    Sincerely,

    Darren Norris

    P.S. The very best way to see our LIFE LESSON strategies in action
    is for your child or family to experience them directly via our
    TRY US OUT program.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense
    125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729
    Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!
    of Etowah North Carolina Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993


    Motivating Children to be Winners in Life

    November 28th, 2016

    Create the Mood for Motivation

    Last week I shared our school’s technique for motivating
    students to try harder, which we call “Praise, Correct, Praise
    and Challenge.” In this newsletter I want to offer some insight
    into the importance of setting the atmosphere.

    Grand Master Darren Norris, Owner of Five Rings Self Defense in Etowah, NC

    But first, let me ask you a question: When you were a kid, when
    did you ask your parents for money? When they were in a good
    mood, of course! You knew they’d be more receptive and generous
    if they were feeling happy.

    We do the same thing with students, setting a positive
    atmosphere and reaping positive results.

    To do this, we make sure our school is an upbeat place to be.
    I tell my instructors that as leaders in my school, we are in
    the business of creating a mood for learning and being the best.

    Stated very simply, we want to project a positive spirit and set
    the stage to make sure students are inspired to learn.

    As parents, you know that being positive around your children
    will always make them strive to be the best. As we mentioned
    in previous newsletters, students are motivated by praise and
    encouragement.

    When students and families walk in the door, we greet one
    another with a bow and a smile. From the moment they step foot
    into the school, they know they will be treated with positive
    encouragement.

    Therefore, they do not fear being ridiculed for trying. They do
    not fear failure because they know they will be encouraged to
    keep going even when the going is tough.

    By creating a positive, upbeat mood, we have found that students
    don’t fear trying new things, even if they are difficult. They
    know they are in a positive place.

    Thank you for visiting our page.

    Sincerely,
    Darren Norris

    P.S. The very best way to see our LIFE LESSON strategies in action
    is for your child or family to experience them directly via our
    TRY US OUT program.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense
    125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729
    Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!
    of Etowah North Carolina Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993


    Positive Praise First

    September 28th, 2016

    Positive Praise First

    Over the course of these past four posts I’ve shared our school’s strategies for positively motivating children to do their best.

    Grand Master Darren Norris, Owner of Five Rings Self Defense in Etowah, NC

    In this newsletter, I want to discuss a common mistake that I’ve seen other teachers and parents sometimes make along the way. In their desire to help children do their very best, they offer “constructive criticism” right from the very beginning.

    However, if children hear praise first, they are much more willing to keep improving. We train our instructors to seek the positives first, to be “good finders.” Once they praise our students for their efforts, they share ways to improve upon their technique.

    So it sounds like this: “I like the way you kicked. Now if you turn your foot this would be better. Great! Now do it 10 more times just like that!”

    Instead of being guarded and defensive, the child is motivated by the praise to try again.

    I also see this with parents. They love their child and want them to do so well that they first correct their child instead of first praising them for their efforts. This minor tweak will really boost your child’s desire to be the best.

    Our instructors call this, “Praise, Correct, Praise and Challenge.”

    I hope this helps. To see my instructors in action, stop by our school and watch how well students respond to our successful style of teaching.

    Thank you for visiting our page.

    Sincerely,
    Darren Norris

    P.S. The very best way to see our LIFE LESSON strategies in action is for your child or family to experience them directly via our TRY US OUT program.

    Hapkido of Hendersonville’s, Five Rings Self Defense
    125 Etowah Center Drive, Etowah, NC 28729
    Ph: 828-388-0635 Call Today!
    of Etowah North Carolina Serving The Brevard, Fletcher, Hendersonville And Horse Shoe North Carolina Community Since 1993